I now always think “if not me, then you” for folks who get hired over me, or funded or chosen as their preferred funded etc. what if means is — if this isn’t me that gets picked, who better than my friend? Less about competition, and meaning spreading more of the love and everyone wins / succeeds and that “rejection/no/not right now/not you” can mean “something better, later, this is for your friend and you’re meant for something else,” when thinking about competition (flip it in its head). 

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Erin Pangilinan

**tl;dr 5 reasons related to identity and network effects and how they function**

Alex and Rahul's Identity

1. Founder identity

2. YC-Backed Identity - The fact that Taro is YC-backed

3. Startup and FAANGMULA Identity - Deep thought from startups to FAANGMULA

4. Network effect lessons

5. Silicon Valley culture identity

1) To me it's **founder identity** - like what's in their DNA that's important. Alex and I are from Fremont. Fremont has **hypercompetitive** people, we all compete over 1st place (for those academically inclined, not everyone is, **but most people in the Asian American community, particularly East Asian and South Asian Americans from this area/region of the Bay Area are** (especially those who went to MSJ - aka Misson San Jose High School-- Filipinx/Southeast Asian Americans it's a mixed bag) and people are transparent with their grades. And this is comparable with places like NY (Stuyvesant) and also SF (Lowell)--while some people might perpetuate that as model minority myth, I don't want folks to see it as those who are not able to be like that not get resources they need (coming from an underrepresented community), **but when you are surrounded with the best, you also naturally in your network and environment, also want to be the best. Everyone else makes each other better, usually when you're open** (and I will beg to differ on this when it comes to AI which is a whole other can of worms). I also went to UC Berkeley (UCLA often rivals us next to Stanford) and they're also a competitive place, everyone talks about their grades, their internships where they got placed, everyone competes with each other, and even if we don't get selected, **we help each other out.** This goes with the same Silicon Valley and YC culture. Also, Rahul went to Stanford, which is #1 when it comes to tech (even creaming Berkeley, my alma mater in many regards).

**2) YC is #1 in the world as an accelerator.** Yes, many people have gotten in more so over the years, and the caliber of the unicorn founders there they've backed along with their partners is no accident. Garry Tan (head of YC currently) who I also know, is also from Fremont btw. So who they're around is also competitive, and they all share within their network. **Outside of the YC network, I've never seen outside of YC's Startup School, a plethora of sharing open source information startups - the literally are with the right investors here that also breed a culture of sharing, transparency, and competitiveness that is also second to none.**

**3) Alex and Rahul are so deeply thoughtful about every aspect of their company, they have the history and battle scars to prove what they'v seen through at multiple startups and at Meta across multiple teams.** Meta as folks know has a hackathon culture, and what always impressed me (even before I was an Oculus Launchpad alumnus), was the **culture of open source and hackathon** culture that was so encouraged, I've met the creators of so many things over the years (GraphQL, FB Live, a lot of core contributors of the React team--and I'm privileged to know the folks leading ads, JDEIB years ago, all the way up to SVP and C-Suite level from during my previous career working for Congressman Ro Khanna and as an indie dev)--**it really doesn't matter who you are, Meta people (employees) and my friends have always hands down been the nicest people you will meet. They worked at Meta, which is known to tell people to go learn there as an engineer to 'learn proper engineering,' and considered also creme de la creme next to the rest of FAANGMULA companies and the OpenAI's / other adjacent startup companies of the world.** They are good at their jobs, and remember Facebook (the way it was named) if people remember in the 90s, Slambook, is all about friendship, everyone wants to be your friend. It wasn't about 'fake friends,' most folks I know personally who have worked for Facebook/Meta from its early days (first two years of existing as a company) up through now are genuine people. They have their own culture that is transparent, much to the dismay of what the public perception is in the media, internally my friends at Reality Labs and other teams actually say it is the most transparent place they have worked.

**I always instantly felt comfortable after meeting Ale and Rahul in-person, they're very accessible, super cordial, and professional. Hands-down very much the brand of a YC world class founder I would expect people are no where near them, they're second to none.** I rave about them, because even if I see a comment or two that may be off on Slack, right away most of the time, one of them, including Charlie, and even Alex's brother Jonathan, reply with rapid response -- the only folks I have seen maintain that kind of speed (move fast and break things), actually to me, was the Obama campaign when I worked there a million years ago where it runs like the military operation, very organized, efficient, and top of their game.

**Network effect:**

Also the best networks I've been apart of outside of Taro coming from UC Berkeley and Stanford in particularly, all share with each other informally (and formally) with students and alumni networks compensation, know-how to get promoted, know-how to create startup and fund companies etc. **I think what's nice with the culture of Taro in our forums and on our Slack channel is we share with our network transparently and this helps everyone improve and level up.**

Just my two cents, I think Rahul and Alex, and Charlie and Jonathan can speak for themselves, but that was my observation and understanding/perception.

**Silicon Valley Culture:**

And ya, other cultures that don't have that, that's like old school 1980s BS imho where there were 'dumb jocks' and 'nerds,' now it's not so -- but don't get me started on 'tech bros' and the type of bullying you see prevalent back then whatnot -- what it means is that the culture of helping each other is very different now in Silicon Valley, everyone always helps each other out as founders a general rule (unspoken founder culture which is founder first as it should be, prioritizing the innovators taking the biggest risks in Silicon Valley startups) and hence, much is transparent ot maek sure our region succeeds and is #1 the best in the world hands down. People have tried to replicate this over the years in other regions, but to me, no other area has ever been successful - everyone comes here to fundraise, everyone comes here to work, everyone comes here to level up - we share that openly here and it works, plain and simple. I have yet to see counters to that narrative that have lasted decades. **I think Rahul and Alex represent Silicon Valley also very well and they are just exemplifying the best parts of our culture here.**

**Hm ya they probably could use this as a testimonial, I probably should post it on LinkedIn and get me some more referral $. Love you guys. &lt;3**

Underrated:

(1) spatial computing, web3/blockchain/crypto and AI - for the last like 10 years only now are people starting to get it.

2) Company swag, conference swag, even the Drake jacket with the Apple logo from WWDC in the 90s is worth hundreds to thousands of dollars now. I love the 90s vintage inspired swag from Apple’s WWDC conference this year. 

Overrated: 

1) people who tell me their startup vertical is more valuable and important than yours because of just $ from the most shallow and vain metric 

People who tell me that working towards advancing healthtech, meter, and biotech impacting millions of people with disease is useless too small of a market and that selling CRM software is more successful and practical and meaningful (ya someone told me who sold his company to Salesforce and told me old people with neurodegenerative brain disease and cancer didn’t matter because the market was too small and generally all of HealthTech was too small…and ya a relative worked as an early Salesforce employee and also founded and sold a cloud company, whose relative also had this disease). It’s interesting that people only find value in sheer numbers and don’t care for humanity…arguably that happened right before COVID-19 so this stayed with me a lot with a great distaste. 

2) Designers that say they won’t take free swag because they’re too eco-friendly and chic to take a new t-shirt to their wardrobe for a tech company they work for or help out with as a volunteer open source contribute (this has happened to me multiple times on email specifically from designers who declined free swag and they cite the same reason), I’m all for sustainability but I wonder if they just don’t like the design because they didn’t the design the logo of that company instead lol. 

As a recovering workaholic who used to work on average 60-80 hours a week and thinking 100 hours wasn’t enough to meet my goals (everyone on the Obama campaign and us alumni of it are hardcore), was not only unsustainable and made me so unhappy, but also had long term effects on my burnout for years. Yes, I was more productive, I did more in 1.5 years than I had in 5, but I also suffered injury that lasted me 10+ years, and folks died on that job, and on my job after that.

**tl:dr: working more hours can make you more productive, but it won’t make you happy, it isn’t maintainable on term, and you can suffer the consequences to your health long-term.**

I don’t think I counted the exact number of hours doing my last startup per week (I was founder and CTO managing 4 ICs and then a bunch of other business stuffs/depts), but what I can say is that the scope of it was about 3-4 companies in one and I was burned out for 6 months. Oddly, I overrode my nervous system and had the audacity to think I could start another startup company or fund right away (right before I bled out and almost died from a bear death experience), and still wanted to do so afterward. I went into a dark place after that.

**What it means is: overwork can kill you, and literally, and it isn’t just the number of hours you put in, but the mental and physical taxation on the body and mind that does the number.**

Moving forward, outside of benefits like fertility and basic pay with stock options and healthcare, I look for somewhere that isn’t so friggin’ demanding that the work I do is not valued and takes up every waking minute of my life, whether or not it was for someone else’s company or my own.

**Rest is important and so is being realistic and manageable with expectations for yourself and the team around you to execute. I** worked in what you called the most toxic cultures in various industries at the highest levels and while it taught me a lot about discipline, the values of efficiency and top world class performance and running everything literally like a military op by the nanosecond, it also taught me the ways I was treated less than human and that to expect everyone to operate like this long-term may not be the best. **While this may sound like dedication and commitment and sacrifice, there is a borderline between insane and reasonable. Use your own judgement here, but even if you sleep 6-8 hours a night, eat healthy, workout, etc. and work 40 hours a week, it can still be a lot and that should be enough.**

**3 Various Cultures of Work in Tech and the 'ideal outlier'**

1. **The Cut # of Hours and hope it solves the problem approach:** Other cultures of tech companies like Team Treehouse tried at 30 hours per week to be productive but I heard changed since then too.
2. **The scope it smaller so it doesn't hyperscale and need VC money so we run lean approach (the ideal method, but not necessarily the right option):** I also heard similar stories of Basecamp with regard to scale of the company and that ultimately while everyone dreams of a work-life balance utopia for a big tech company or a startup, there is always a chance of overwork if it isn’t a lifestyle business. Still, some tech companies operate like a lifestyle business or consultancy and that can also burn you out as the primary owner not at scale.
3. **Work-Life Balance Ideal -- but you might not get promoted or make as much money** - I also know folks close to me who achieve perfect work-life balance, with all the stock options and salary (but less pay for the last 9 years like thinks heir max was 100K), work less than 40 hours a week in tech, go on rock climbing and PTO for at least a quarter of the year, but are “always on” remote on Slack 24/7 almost so that is another thing to consider.

**What this means: know what value you are trading your time and energy for (money etc.). and choose accordingly.**

**Ideal Outlier:** While this can be seen as a false paradigm (the 3 above don't apply to you) and you can get paid $600K+ working less than 20 hrs a week. Comment// \[I'm sure that exists ***SOMEWHERE***, but find that it's reserved from very rare, high level, very senior ICs, and my friends who were all acqui-hires at their startup that sold it because they couldn't scale like FAANGMULA and get paid $1-2M/year at minimum and chill all day on their product they're working on integrating into a larger product from the acquiring company. Many of these people leave to eventually found their own companies again as serial entrepreneurs (and work hella hours again) or become VCs (Venture Capitalists), angel investors etc.\].

**My bottom line: I personally wouldn’t overwork myself that ridiculously again, if anything if I did 60-80 hours a week it would be because the job required it and I was all in, or I had a side hustle and more grad school that totaled another 10-20 hours a week**. I also have ex-Meta and ex-Amazon engineering friends who regularly work 60 hours a week and still volunteered for leadership roles for two non-profits (mine and another friend’s non-profit), but that didn’t last.

AND if you ***still*** don't believe me and have been an indie dev consultant, you can read Jonathan Stark's great list-serve against all hourly billing (for independent contractors) and think about the value you provide, so your work is not valued based by the number of hours you bill, and how you bill varies by project and measured by value. This is different for FTE (Full Time Employees) at various tech companies and then it's just about 'are you getting the job done' balance with health and money exchange. <https://jonathanstark.com/>

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I also group by tag in Upnote (used to use Inkdrop and Quiver for this), and also use Skeema for bookmark archive by project that I can toggle through with search within the browser. It is helpful and nothing is ever lost. 

I’ve been using Sunsama for a while. I started timing almost everything I do when I get out of bed and generated data viz to see where my time went, there’s also an archive. I’ll share a referral code if interested just DM me on Slack.

GANTT charts, Notion and other product / project management systems help, so does body doubling and pomodoro technique to keep me a little more accountable and less lonely (tactic many Neurodivergent and ADHD folks use). 

I echo all the comments made by Lee especially. Part of the reason I ever considered just going back to IC is that while I can facilitate and lead meetings and manage people (a rarer skill I find with engineering and technician folks the more I move up), but I felt like I was getting too far away from code, too removed from the technology and contributing what I found valuable as opposed to “my team did X.” It’s great to be a leader, but knowing I had more of my fingerprint on something more technically made me and still makes me most happy. Most of the happy CTO and founder types never leave coding a bit. Just my two cents. 

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