I think the way to tackle this requires self reflection. Here's a few tips you can try:

1. **5 Whys**. Asking yourself why you are feeling jealous or insecure. For each answer you come up with, ask "whys" in succession until you feel that you get to the root of why you're feeling this way.
2. **You should only compare yourself to who you were yesterday**. This sounds cliché but you only see the top of the iceberg of someone else's life. If you're not willing to swap your whole life with someone else, the good and the bad it's not worth thinking about.
3. **Negative visualization**. Imagine how much worse your life would be if you didn't have what you have right now. This is a mindfulness hack I like to do to feel gratitude for what I currently have. This doesn't work for everyone so take it with a grain of salt.

Senior Software Engineer at Intelerad Medical Systems

Ikki Lachance

I think you're doing a great job recognizing and seeking help to address your stress. \
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You've recognized potential sources for the stress that attributes to your stress level. This is important because this gives us potential clues on how you can begin to tackle your feeling of stress.\
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I'm hearing that you are stressed due to lack of clarity around expectation for a senior SWE. I agree with @Jonathan C that working with your manager to clarify your senior level expectation will help here. \
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Specifically, work with your manager on setting up timelines on when the expectation will be clarified. Our brain has a funny way of keeping stress around if it feels uncertain when and how the stress will be resolved. So having a date set on when and how the lack of clarity can be addressed will help.\
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For imposter syndrome, there is a lot to unpack here. I also struggled with this when I was first promoted to a senior software engineer. Despite evidence and feedback that I deserved the promotion.\
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To overcome imposter syndrome you will need to get to the roots of why you're feeling this way. One thing that helped me was keeping a journal of compliments from my coworkers on my work. I would go and read the journal of compliments whenever I was feeling like an imposter. Something about reading back past records of acknowledgements from coworkers helped me feel less like an imposter.\
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Feel free to dm me if you want to chat more about this.

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