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How to thank someone on the team for helping you?

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Software Engineer Intern at Othera month ago

Suppose I am an intern on the team. If someone in my team helps me out, should I thank them directly, or would it be better to show the appreciation in a team meeting/team slack?

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    Tech Lead @ Robinhood, Meta, Course Hero
    a month ago

    The level of thanks will vary based on the level of help: It would be very weird (and awkward/annoying) if you sent someone a box chocolates or something for every little thing they helped you with.

    What I will say though is that you should always write a personalized medium-effort message minimum for everything instead of the very lazy "thanks" or "ty" DM (that is a low bar that you should never stoop too).

    Let's say someone helped you figure out some build issue where you simply mis-followed the onboarding wiki and missed a step. Even though the help was just 2-5 minutes of their time, you can send something like: "Even though it was small, I've been stuck on this for 30+ minutes, so I really appreciate the help! You saved me from potentially hours more of going nowhere 🤣".

    There's a good lesson about Deep Thanks in the question asking course as well: https://www.jointaro.com/lesson/UwFI0QisFWFRiOx30HiJ/asking-great-questions-part-23-deep-thanks/

    Your thought around public thanks is good. It makes the thanks more meaningful and gives the helping engineer more points in performance review.

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      Helpful Tarodactyl
      Taro Community
      a month ago

      Hi Alex,

      I really appreciate your advice! Following up, when would it be more appropriate to thank the person publicly instead of just sending them a personalized message?

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      Tech Lead @ Robinhood, Meta, Course Hero
      a month ago

      I really appreciate your advice! Following up, when would it be more appropriate to thank the person publicly instead of just sending them a personalized message?

      There is unfortunately no math for this. You do this when they help you with a big thing. As for what is a big thing, that's up to your personal judgment to decide.

      What I will say is that there's a fairly linear correlation between magnitude of help and time spent. If they spent several hours helping you (or even several days), that's probably something worth giving a bigger thanks too.